Have you ever noticed the photos of movie stars on the red carpet? How the stars always seem to strike a very flattering pose? What is their secret? Practice!
Many people over 30 are self-conscious about having their photos taken. "Oh, I always look bad in photos" is a frequent response, but you can change that! Okay, so you may not look like a movie star, but you can certainly strike a more flattering pose. Try the following tips:
1) Practice at a mirror. Decide how much you want to smile. Tilt your head up and down and from side to side to determine your best angle. For example, a downward tilt could emphasize under-eye circles and neck creases. Think about when your eyes are more open/larger, forehead lines, and other features that might be more prominent in photos.
2) Find your best side. For most people, one side of their face is more photogenic than the other. A few folks actually look best looking straight at the camera, but that is not usually the case. Also make sure your back is straight and your shoulders are back (not rounded). That gives your neck and chin line a better angle.
3) Take practice shots. Either with your cell phone or the help of a friend with a camera, take photo after photo until you find THE pose. A friend with a camera is probably going to be the best bet. Once you find your best pose, print it, and practice it -- a LOT. Then, the next time someone wants to take your photo, you will be ready.
One other note: going back to the red carpet photos, have you ever noticed that the photographers are always shooting down? They are on a higher platform than the stars. That is another great tip; pro photographers often work from a short ladder to get a better vantage point. However, if the photographer (or you, taking selfies) is too high, your head will look disproportionately large for your body. In photography, a little height is a good thing!
Okay, so get in front of your mirror and start practicing. You will be confident the next time someone with a camera says, "Smile!"
This blog is based on an excerpt from "Lose Your Stress, Find Your Joy!" by Lisa Creedon.
What on earth is an Encouragement File? Why would I need one?
Everyone should have an Encouragement File! Regardless of who you are or your station in life, no one is "up" every single day. On days when life offers a few more challenges than usual, sometimes it is helpful to look back over positive things that have happened in your life -- things that are special just to you!
Through the years, you have probably received a number of cards and thank you notes that were thoughtfully written. Perhaps the writers of those cards and notes said lovely things about you. But where are those cards and notes now? Are they in a drawer? A box in the basement? In the trash?
If you do not already have an Encouragement File, start one today! Your file could be an actual paper file (mine is) and/or on the computer. In the file, include cards and thank you notes you have received and printed emails where a friend has written something thoughtful or said good things about you. Write down verbal compliments you have received from family, friends, your boss, even strangers. And now that you have a place to put those positive remarks, stay current with it!
Include a list of nice things you have done for others (don't include the things where people were unappreciative of your efforts!) and a list of nice things people have done for you. A few inspirational poems or articles could also be included, but let the file be mostly about you.
Make a list of your strengths and good qualities to put in the file. Sometimes it is nice to review what we really know about ourselves but forget during troubled times.
When you are having a bad day or need some inspiration, go through your Encouragement File for instant joy!